Since he's been home, William's behavior has remained the same. I guess he is so young, he doesn't really know the difference of Jack being home or away; that, or he just doesn't care.
Tre, on the other hand, did care. He constantly cried for him, asked about him, wanted to talk to him on the phone, etc., and now that Jack's back he's like a different child. I think that since Jack was gone for so long, he built Jack up in his head to be this wonderful man (which he is) that let's him do whatever he wants (which he doesn't).
It's hard not to get my feelings hurt (I know he's three and doesn't know how to handle all of these emotions), but after so many days and so many, I want my daddy's, it's soooo hard. Ever since Jack has been home, Tre has acted out and when I punish him he screams for his daddy (who is mostly at work), like Jack will save him! He is constantly telling me how much he loves Jack and if I want to help him do something he'll say, "NO! I only want daddy to help", which is sooo sweet, but it keeps me wondering if I am chopped liver! I know. I know. He's only 3 and Jack was gone for a long time. I have to keep reminding myself! It's just hard because I was the one watching him and taking care of him for those 7 weeks and now I feel like he's blaming me for Jack having to leave.
I have to give props to Jack because when he gets home from work he takes over the disciplining so I don't have to be "Mr. Bad Guy" all the time. Last night Tre was REALLY acting out and Jack was VERY appropriately tough on him! Tre actually said, "I want my mommy!", which secretly made me smile. I hoped that might have finally broke Tre from his "daddy spell," and it might have.
Tre has been SOOOOO much better today. We went to Barnes and Nobles to play with the train table and after only 20 minutes William had a major poop and I was unprepared with no diapers so we had to leave. Tre simply said, "Okay!" and that was that! I was very proud! No talking back. No tantrums.
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